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Gender Blindness And The Need For Equity More Than Equality

Many of us talk about gender equality and we support it, raise our kids accordingly and how everyone should amplify this thought. But have you heard about gender blindness and how unknowingly even you can be one of those people with no knowledge about it?

“Gender blindness” is the lack of awareness about how men and women are affected by a situation in a different manner due to the difference in their roles, needs, status and priorities and biologies in their societies. Gender blindness can be very harmful and work as a fuel to further increase the issue of gender inequality by ignoring the differences between different genders. It is also an ideology for some who choose not to see the differences.

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Gender blindness has become one of the biggest challenges for women in the modern world. When talking about men against women, the word “equality” is used alot to show support towards women but is that actually helpful?

Consider this, two people are asked to oversee something over a wall. One of them is tall while the other one is shorter than average. Since it is impossible to look over the wall, both of them are provided a small stool to stand upon. The taller person with the help of the stool is easily able to see over the wall but a similar stool provided to the shorter person is still of no use. This is what equality does to the shorter person. Do you think he or she will be happy? This where equality fails and there is a need for equity. Equality gives a group of people the same resources while equity recognizes each person’s circumstances and provides proper resources to achieve the desired goal. The need for equity must be emphasized.

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In this modern world, gender blindness is becoming more of a problem than gender equality. It’s become the best way to sweep all issues related to women right under the rug. Women and men have different needs and they need to be met in different ways. This is where equity goes a step beyond to make everyone get an equal level playing field. Giving women the same resources as men will not be helpful in every situation and so it needs to be considered that women need extra support than men.

When it comes to the workplace, it is the responsibility of organizations to make changes in their policies and make sure that they empower women through equity for their success. The HR department of an organization plays a vital role in bringing changes in the policies but such changes might take decades to be considered and then accomplished. Employers should consider hiring anti-racist, pro-women and trans-friendly people for their HR team. At workplaces, awareness and practicing equity within every department by each team member might result in small changes needed to create a bigger wave. Studies show that this will address the gap which is related to salary, self-confidence, and overall performance. This will ensure not just fairness but fairness with success.

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We as a society need to work and uproot these prejudices to have a better future. Working towards gender equity will bring a positive change and benefit every gender.

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Why is it a Piggy Bank? Why not a Dog, Chicken Or Dinosaur Bank?

As a parent when we think about teaching our kids to start collecting coins and eventually save money, we get them a piggy bank. With modern times, we can find piggy banks shaped in different cartoons and even characters from animated movies. But they are all still called piggy banks. Ever wondered why they are known only from the animal pig and not any other animal that a child may actually be fond of?

The answer can be found somewhere in the Middle Ages. In those times, the real banks were not into existence. People used to save their money at home. Not under the mattress, or a cupboard which also didn’t exist but in kitchenware. During those times, metal was not something that was used to make utensils and was a very expensive commodity. Pots and pans were made of earthenware. A special yet affordable orange-colored clay called “pygg” was used for it. People who were well off used to get huge custom made jars of pygg only to save money called pygg pots.

Earthenware pots and pans used in yesteryears
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Early English was very different than it is today. Pygg pots were earlier pronounced as pug pots. With the pronunciation of many alphabets evolving, for example the pronunciation of letter ‘y’ changed from sound ‘u’ to sound ‘i’. The pygg pots and the farm animal pig which actually lies around in pygg and mud sounded the same. Europeans completely forgot that the word “pygg” actually meant clay used to make earthenware in yesteryears. The word bank had also come into existence by then and when potters received requests to make pygg pots or pygg banks, they started shaping them into animal pigs. This accidental change was accepted widely by customers. It emerged so much in those years that little piggy banks were being fashioned for kids as well which delighted them.

Piggy bank made out of clay
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Pigs were also tied with good fortune. To possess a herd of pigs was considered a sign of wealth and prosperity in the Middle Ages. Successful breeding was possible with them with minimal investment and the owners would never go hungry. Many farmers survived the winter through just one pig that they owned. That is how pig also became a symbol of good luck in German tradition. Marzipan pigs are gifted during Christmas and New Year to bring good luck. In some Asian countries too, pig is considered to bring good luck and fortune.

Marzipan pigs gifted for good luck
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Such a sublime history of how piggy banks came into existence and from there it spread all over the world. It has continued till date and we and many more of our generations to come are going to teach our young kids to start saving in piggy banks. Now that you know about it, do not forget to share this piece of interesting history with your kids, maybe even as a bedtime story!

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3 Pencil & Paper Games To Play With Your Kids

Be it a child or an adult, everyone likes to play games. With the current conditions of being at home most often and playing the same toys and board games can sometimes be boring for children. A small change can make a big difference. But like me, if you do not want to invest in anymore games and with the “currently unavailable” tag on shopping sites over everything a child requires as it is not considered into essentials, getting that change might be difficult.

Considering all of that, I thought of sharing the games that I play with my daughter since she was four. All you need is a pencil and paper and you are good to go. Many of you might already know these games and some might have forgotten them over time. So let’s refresh our memory and take a five into our childhood.

1. Dots & Boxes
This is my daughter’s favourite game so listing it at the very top.

Begin with a grid of dots drawn on a piece of paper. A 6×6 or 8×8 grid works best for younger kids. You can increase the grid size once they get the hang of it or when you have more than two players. Players take turns to join two dots and draw a line. The lines can be horizontal and vertical leading to formation of boxes. One player can draw only one line at a time. You can use colored pencils or sketchpens as well. When one forms a box, they can write their initials to mark it. At the end of the game, when the grid is full, the player who made the most boxes wins.

Dots & Boxes

2. Hangman
This is an oldie and one of the most played game on paper. It originated in England during the 17th century.

This game can also be played by two or more players. Start by drawing gallows. One player thinks of a word without telling the other players about it and then draws dashes equal to the number of letters in the word. Mark the dashes that will contain a vowel with a star/asterisk. All the other players will each take a turn to guess the letters. Star/asterisk will help the other players especially kids to guess the vowels first and then guess the word. For every wrong guess of a letter or the word, draw a body part of the hangman on the gallows. Typical order is head, body, right arm, left arm, right leg, left leg. For kids, the words can be as easy as an apple, book, sweet, potato, etc and once advanced you can start with their favourite cartoon names or movie titles. This game can also be a great way to brush up the vocabulary that you have been working.

Hangman

3. Obstruction
Hungarian mathematician Laszlo Kozma created this game and it’s only for two players.

Make square grid of 6×6. Once learnt the grid can be made larger in size to make the game go longer. One player can be ‘O’ and other can be ‘X’. Players can even use their initials. Each player takes turns writing their mark in one of the squares but you can only do so if all of the neighbouring squares including the diagonal ones are empty. Each player takes a turn and marks only one box. The player who is unable to mark a box loses.

Obstruction

These games are a quick and easy way to pass the time. They are not only fun but a great way to help kids work on their focus and attention.

A child who is playing is always refining and learning skills which help them during childhood and beyond.

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Friends Behind Walls – Book Review

Can we ever keep two kids apart and tell them not to play with each other? Will that actually work? Will they ever listen to you??

“Friends Behind Walls” is a beautiful story on similar lines about childhood and the strong friendship bond that forms between Putti and Inu.

Putti decides to spend his holidays in Deolali, his hometown where he has never been as his Dada Dadi had already passed away before his birth. But he had heard wonderful stories about Deolali fom his Nana Nani and wanted to visit the beautiful place.

He also makes a friend Inu who lives next door but their parents forbid them to play. All they have are grunts and stares to pass at each other. But why is it so? What happened between them? Why do they not talk? Putti and Inu start on their investigation to find answers to these questions so that they can continue with their friendship. But will they be able to do so? Will they find the answers to them??
This book took me back to my childhood times when me and my friends were just inseparable. Going to school, playing together and even studying for exams together. Our summer holidays were all about eating kulfis and golas and playing all day long.

It is a perfect chapter book for young readers. @harshikaa_udasi has given a fun twist to characters like Putti’s Dad who has a rhyme to every word he says and Eira just can’t stop laughing. She has made sure to introduce new vocabulary to young readers like “flabbergasted” and “brouhaha” with their meanings explained in the story itself. Eira is enjoying that alot and tries to use them in her sentences now. Illustrations by @krishnabalashenoi are beautiful and book cover designed by @devanganadash is very catchy.

My rating 5/5

Book details
Book: Friends Behind Walls
Author: Harshikaa Udasi
Cover illustration: Krishna Bala Shenoi
Cover design: Devangana Dash
Publisher: Penguin Random House India

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Secrets to being a Happy Mom during lockdown! ✨✨✨

How do you think a Mom reacts when she is tired or unhappy? She’s a ticking bomb that probably might go off on anyone and everyone and with current scenario where everyone is stuck at home, Moms tend to lose it every now and then.

I’m a Mom of two kids where one is a schooling girl and needs me during all her activities and other being an infant wants all the attention and care he can get. Trying to do it all and more gets overwhelming sometimes.

There are ways to handle all of it in a much better way and I’m sharing some tricks of mine here for all you beautiful Mamas to try!

  1. Ask for help
    Yes! This is the first and foremost stress buster. Ask for help from your husband, grandparents, friends or family. It all becomes overwhelming at certain times and all you have to say is “Please help”!
  2. Eat what you like
    A big bar of chocolate, your favourite cup of souffle or just a big slice of cheese cake. Good food sets one in a good mood.
  3. Take a power nap
    Being sleep-deprived can make anyone cranky. Nothing like a good nap. No matter the time, once the kids are taken care of, just get back to your bed. Working on getting your 8-hours sleep might work out better!
  4. Coffee/Tea
    The magic potion I call it. Nothing that a good cuppa cannot fix. Go to your favourite spot in your home with your cup and just relax.
  5. Get groovy!
    Put on some good music and dance to it with your partner. Including kids can also turn out to be fun! Play a mix of evryone’s favourites and get on the floor.
  6. Me time
    Me time is very important on a regular basis. Be it for just a cup of coffee, painting your nails or with a magazine. Just keep some time for yourself.
  7. Talk
    Talk to your partner about stuff that you can handle, that you can’t handle. What you did that day, how you did it, etc. Just talk and he will understand when he needs to step in!
  8. Special weekends.
    Movie nights or game nights turn out to be super fun. Watch kids’ favourites or put them to bed and watch your favourites. Unwind with some binge watching. For games, even the simple pin-the-tail or Uno turn out to be super engaging and fun.
  9. Quiet time
    Keep some quiet time for older kids. Engage them in some activities like reading or crafts. Playing their favourite pretend plays, etc while you put your legs up.
  10. Cuddle up
    Your little bunnies are gonna be all grown up in no time. So get your hugs and kisses while you can. Lots and lots of them and especially when something is wrong. It will work it’s magic and all the stress will disappear in no time.

A happy Mom creates a happy family and this happiness within you can come with constant efforts from yourself.

What’s your trick to be a happy Mom? Share in the comments below.